Frustrated and More Saddened #3

[stewart10]

Yeah, Heim you are right. Although at this point I don't think she is leaving the door open.

We own that and are trying to be better. What we can't own is our spouses swallowing their feelings of unhappiness about us; then turning around and saying that they are unhappy ONLY because of us. That is absolute and total BS. We may be part of the reason, but we ain't the whole reason. Don't let it shake you for long.

Within a few minutes of saying I was the sole cause of her unhappiness, she said she thought the Dr. knew that it wasn't just her marriage that made her unhappy. I asked her what else and she said there were other things. So I don't know what to think of anything she says.

I know that since I've been moving, it's been stressful because I've been tired, a little mopy/sad, and snappish toward my W, but I do feel the pressure from both of us being removed. WIthout my W being willing to work on the M together, there was no way that my staying in the house would have caused a breakthrough. I would have eventually just gone insane with not being able to express my feelings.

This makes a lot of sense to me. I kind of had the same inclination when things were not getting any better but did not want to come to grips with exactly what this means.

Just got a really nice hug from her. It has been so long that I even had one of those. But knowing that it was done without any love makes it bittersweet. God I am going to miss her so much.