When to move back in together?

[the girl]

runningoutoftime,
How many times did he move in/out? I like what you say about asking him to accept me as is (he is often impatient, disrespectful or flat out mean to me about my preferences), because I see it as his enormous insecurity trying to pull me down as well. I like who I am. As far as telling him he has to really WANT to be with me, that seems contrary to the other advice of letting him come back and wait for the feelings to return. I feel like if I say that, he will respond by saying that we should just divorce.
I have been going through this since December, but I am sensing that yours went on for a lot longer?

The Girl