I am very disappointed to report that my wife made her decision to not attend the New England region Retrouvaille with me, which takes place in 9 days.
We met with a divorce mediator for two hours on Monday evening, and I asked her in 2 or 3 different ways to consider attending Retrouvaille. Even though I emphasized the positive aspects of the weekend, she was convinced that it would be a negative experience for her and one that she could not handle.
I think the real reason is that she has truly convinced herself that divorcing me and being with the OM is the only way she will find happiness in the future. I believe she feels a lot of (Catholic) guilt about what she is doing, and she feels she is not emotionally strong enough to honestly dialogue with me and face the feelings that would come up.
She was crying a lot during mediation, especially as I was opening my heart up to her. Honestly, because of the OM, I did not expect her to say yes to Retrouvaille, but I have been praying and hoping she might agree.
It is so frustrating. I asked her to attend the last Retrouvaille weekend in March 2007, but that was the week she was moving out of our home into her new apartment. I was much more optimistic back then that we could work things out eventually, but clearly, she made up her mind many months ago, and has not wavered from the decision to end our marriage.
LG
Me 46 WAW 45 M 21 yrs
WAW: "I need to be alone" 12/06 W moves out 3/07 Mediation finalized 08/08
