What helps me lots, lots, is the "not just friends" book, it gives you coping suggestions and will let you see beyond this hurt you see now. Hang in there friend, I know it hurts, but it isn't hopeless.
I just started looking at this book again last night. I can't read the first half of the book, but I flipped back to Chapter 7 where it starts talking about recovery. I do think there is some good info there. I'll need to take time to read it more carefully.
