why don't I listen to my own stories?

[NikB]

Agent99 - yeah, that's why I mentioned it may not work for you. It helped me detach a lot more when I realized that while H was moved out.

On your question about me and my weekend - several weekends in a row now have just been really frustrating. Friday nights had been our "date nights" so it was kind of assumed that we'd be doing something together even if we didn't plan what specifically. That was fine up until H became "unsure" again (which of course he didn't TELL me at the time, just started acting realy weird again). So the last few weekends we both get home Friday night, no specific plans, H resenting the fact that I'm 'expecting' us to do something together, me upset that H doesn't want to spend time with me... well, you can see how that makes for a crappy evening. So, no more. I'm not going to specifically avoid him, just make a lot more of my own plans to be out and doing things for fun. No more dinners out where H is "unsure" and I'm sitting there feeling unloved and unwanted.

Sunday night we do have a birthday dinner for me, SIL (his sister), and his grandfather over at his mom's house. So we'll be together for that. Although he is already acting pissy about that, like he doesn't want to go... so that should be really fun.