She doesn't want validation. She wants comfort. Validating and comforting... are two dif things. GGB. Just hold your wife... let her know she is... she is... it.
Maybe. I've repeatedly dealt with a wife that appeared to want comfort and really wanted something else instead. Maybe validation, or a distraction that tweaks her attraction mechanism, or just some time alone. It's hard to tell sometimes.
Oh yeah, and if you're worried that she's down and want her reassurance that she's not upset with or disappointed by you, she's not going to be very comforted by any gestures you make. So be very clear what your internal state is before you try to comfort her... make sure you've got some strength to share.
Last edited by Crazy Eddie; 09/12/0701:13 PM.
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