401K -- legal or not. Whatever. I've felt uneasy about this uneven split from the beginning. The only reason my 401k is higher than hers is that she took out flex benefits from her paycheck for bills. The money is every bit as much hers as mine. I could be an ass about it, but really, what's the point? She's not walking away because she had the A, she's walking away because of a combo of her not speaking up enough and not being honest with me and me blaming her for everything (well, most everything) wrong in our marriage until recently. Besides, what's going to get me closer to where I want to be -- freely sharing what's rightfully hers or being a petulant bastard? I'll go with option A.
Fair enough. Each sitch is different, and it sounds like you did right.
Sorry for the delay in posting...had to go look up the work "petulant".
