That's awesome that you will be going to Retrouville! wish I could do that, with my H's schedule is imposible; dont' read too much into little things (her not replying fast enough) Focus on the positives.
I always seem to read into the little things especially when it takes 3 hrs to reply to one of my emails. Oh well.
So we go to JC last night. Not the most positive experience. C asks how things are going since my W didn't go to the last. I say things are good... better?... improving? I kept downgrading because of the funny looks my W was giving me. So she asks how things have gone for the past several weeks. I let W do most of the talking. Interesting to hear her perspective on things. She even mentioned that she thought I had been manipulative of her feelings when I told her the one day that I was tired of the limbo and that she should file. C recommended several books for us to read. One of them was "Getting the Love you Want" I think.
One thing I would like some feedback on from folks here... The C asked my W if she had been IL with the OG. W said Yes. C asked if W was still IL with OG. W said that she still has very strong feelings for him.
I knew the answer to this deep down, but to hear my W say that was devastating and hurtful. Is it right for the C to be asking this type of question in a JC session or should this be limited to IC??
We got home and had a talk in the car and before bed. She told the OG yesterday that she needed to stop talking / seeing him. Seems like she is very torn with her decision and confused right now. Is not sure that coming back to us and working on the R is the right thing. Keeps saying that she wants to find the In Love feeling and doesn't think that it should be so much work. I'm realizing that piecing is going to be very difficult and I'm not liking it. When things first started happening, there was no positive feedback from W, so it was easier to learn to deal with that. Now I get positive messages one day and negative the next. I'm having a hard time dealing with this.
