Thanks guys.

I guess I just have such a hard time believing someone could actually do these things. I guess that's a good thing b/c it means I wouldn't....at least in my right mind which he is not.

And Lissie, that's it exactly. Just show me one thing that tells me I wasn't putting so much energy for 20 years on someone who is simply a jerk.

I'm working on that final detachment. Somehow I think it will come after the D is final (October 9th). That will bring some closure for me that I think will let me turn that final corner.

The rumors - OMG. Sometimes I can step back and just think "Is this really my life????". And it is. Sigghhh.....

Thanks you two! It has helped me a lot reading your encouraging words this morning!


Me-BS 38
X-WS 36
Separated 11/15/2006
Filed for D 8/1/2007
Divorce Final 12/21/2007
S13, S13 (twins), D9
Married 13 Yrs
Together 20 Yrs