"I'm feeling so sad about the loss of security I had, which I really valued, believing that you'd always stand by me, and that's going to take some time to get past."
I think that is okay, except for "you'd always stand by me" part. why not say, "believing that we would always be married". then it's not so much pointing fingers.
definitely go for the 180s. if anything, it throws them for a loop and just helps the confusion....which is a good thing at this time.
You may never find out what your H was missing. I never did. I'm assuming I must have figured part of it out since he came back though. Just try to reflect on the times that were good and what you were doing differently then, or even the times that were bad and what you were doing or not doing.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
