You might not believe this (or you might), but she is usually the one who will walk in front of me and try to lead (which ticks me off), unless I hold her hand to keep her in check. I have even mentioned this to her a few times. The deflection is “Oh, I just feel rushed, we’re in a hurry, blah, blah, blah…” Well, that will be another exercise to practice.
So. Use it to understand her. And not lead her yourself.
You can be an angel in the face of someone's demon. You just have to KNOW it.
