I'm looking for.... "I'm not sure yet.... you are covering a lot of ground... can you give me a chance to catch up?"
Honest. Vulnerable.
It allows me to NOT label you as my father... as you figure it out.
And I can... maybe... stand down. As long as you are not in my face about all this, Who You Are stuff... in the interim... but maybe say to me... "look. I'm figuring it out. In the process, I am NOT your father. If you could also consider, in the interim... Who You Are... we might go out... friday night, for a nice meal at xxx... take a walk... and ponder it and all that we are considering seperately... but do it together. And maybe... I can help you... and you can help me... dunno."
