Cac:

In the absence of saying and being who you are... you are, in effect... SAYING and BEING Who You Are Not.

So. You say... I am NOT a victim of YOUR pain. Fine. Now I am asking... so... Who ARE you?

If you can't answer that... all you are doing is BEING confused. As you were when I asked the question. You should be DAM confused.

And I bet your wife is, too.

Corri