I wish there was a list, it'd be great if this site had a list of counselors who subscribed to the ideas here, but I know of no such list...
Really all you can do is look up every marriage counselor you can find and call them up, tell them your wife has given up but you wish to save your marriage and ask them what their approach would be. Many will tell you that there's not point if your wife is not willing to work on the relationship. When you find the one that says that your best bet is to meet with them and work on what changes you can make to help draw her back, go see that person. And honestly, if your wife wants out, individual counseling is your best bet. I can't imagine anything good can come from joint counseling until she is at a point where she's at least willing to reconsider her decision...
