Now I've done it

[mkultra]

About being back on the market, I've had some invites but feel like I'm... cheating. These are from old "friends". I know I don't want anything beyond friendly companionship, but, under the circumstances, I feel I'm better off not even going there.

Where do you guys draw the line? Obviously, our H's have company, but two wrongs don't make a right. Right? Even a platonic outing could possibly complicate things and be turned around to make me look bad. I could use the boost in my self esteem, though. It's probably not the best place to go looking for that boost.

THIS IS WHAT HOMER SAYS ON DATING

4. Date Others
“When I’m married?” “Oh, yeah, unless your attorney tells you not to do it. Even then, youcan go ahead and do it very discreetly. But particularly enjoy others.
I had this preacher in my office not very long ago, and I said, “How do you feel?” “I’mdepressed. My wife’s divorcing me, we’re separated, and she won’t listen to reason. Hermind’s made up.” I said, “What method are you using?” “I’m talking with her, I’m prayingabout it.” I said, “Well, are any of those methods working?” “No.” I said, “Not only that,she seems to be getting further away from you, doesn’t she?” “Yeah.” I said, “It never worksfor anybody. It wouldn’t work for Jesus Christ, because those methods show her that youhave low self-esteem. You’re really telling her, ‘I’m a pea-brain. Don’t you want to live witha pea-brain?’” “Well, how am I telling her that?” “Well, you’re telling her that you can’t seethat the world is full of thousands and thousands of gorgeous, sweet women, who would do anything to have a guy like you. You’re telling her that you can’t see that. You just can’t see
that, you’re such a pea-brain.

So you ask a woman, “I’m a pea-brain. Do you want to live with a pea-brain?” She says,“No thank you!” He said, “But that’s against the Bible.” I said, “Baloney. I didn’t say fall inlove with anybody. I didn’t say take them to bed. I just said date them.”


Dr. David Burns, in his book Intimate Connections, Chapter 8, “How To Deal With A PersonWho’s Giving You The Runaround,” he calls it the Harem Principle. He says when you getone, all of a sudden there’s a bunch of them.
Two weeks after dating a woman, his wife starts phoning him. Wants to know what’s goingon. And gradually, she talked to him more and more, initiative coming from her. So theygradually got back together.