I've been thinking about this a little bit before responding... I think the best I can answer is to say that I am someone thinks he is starting (hoping) • to see a light in the tunnel • to feel some of the stress start to lift • to look more into the future than just day to day • to be more relaxed.
That is about the best I can come up with for now. I guess I’m in transition. I don’t feel grumpy or angry too much, I don’t necessarily feel happy yet… does that make sense?
I think, in a sense... you are asking your wife to 'be Who She Is,' hoping she will be that... when you do not know yourself. And until this moment... I don't think you realized you weren't quite there yourself. "I'm doing the best I can..." is a whole lot different than saying "I'm NOT your father." For that begs the question... okay... if you are not my father... Who ARE you?"
And you've been saying... "Dunno... just... I am being NOT your father..." Okay... that leaves... like a universe FULL of potential for what you COULD be... and... hey... you don't know... why should I? You can bet your bippy I'm walking with caution...
So. At least the answer you gave me above is HONEST. I can DEAL with honesty. I think I might even be able to mirror that...
I just had to 1) let down my own defenses and 2) ask the right questions. When I did both of those things... you could hear me... and mirror back.
