COG,

Your insight and words of support are amazing! \:D This board is very lucky to have you around and I for one am so inspired by your wisdom. You rock!!


Amy,

I'm glad to hear that you have decided to look into Al-Anon... it really is a wonderful program. Not just for helping the enabler to stop enabling but to help discover inside yourself what makes you an enabler. When my ex H relapsed I found help and support there. I still have the book.... and you are welcome to it... if you like.... just let me know, I'll be happy to send it to you.

Your position now may just be the very spot that that God intended all along. With everything you've been through you have gained valuable wisdom and strength to carry you through to the next phase... that of tough love tempered with compassion. You know firsthand the feelings of being lost and the fierce pride/fear that keeps you there.

Not one of us here can know just what you go through... we may all have the ability to relate to different circumstances but having read through the changes as they have unfolded.... one thing seems clear... God is guiding you and will complete the good work He began in you. The path of joy runs straight through the heart of pain and suffering.

"Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross."
Heb.12:2

I'm praying for you girlie... and I am continually amazed by your getting right back up after every 'death blow' you get dealt. Hang in there.... joy cometh....

~lost

Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.