Chat with OPs spouse?

[lester]

Ohh OM's wife and me wouldn't be playing golf. We may wack a few balls around. Their faces would be priceless seeing the two of us confronting them... lol

Of course that's fantasy. It'd probably be wiser to work under cover together. I still don't know what Saffie means by shafted... What's with that?

[runningoutoftime]

I personally would rather know than not know... by not knowing I'd feel like a fool and it wouldn't provide me with an opportunity to try and save my marriage. For example, initially before I knew about OW, I took my husband's criticisms personal, got mad and reacted. If I had known about the affair I would have realized that his actions and anger were due to other things and I would have reacted differently.

When I spoke with OW's husband. I presented information unemotionally. I told him I strongly suspected his wife was having an affair with my husband (even though I was certain) and then I described what incidents led me to believe this (i.e. phone records which I mailed a copy of to him, timing of certain events, that my husband mentioned something about moving out where they lived, etc...). I was always careful to present it as a "suspicion" and explained that I felt he had a right to know if there might be a threat to his marriage. This way he could try and figure out what might be wrong and fix it. I then wished him luck. I didn't give him my phone number and didn't actually speak with him again.

BTW, information you've heard about OM's W and their marriage from your W may be complete fiction. Also, I am probably the least "frightening" person on this planet, but I think I could have turned into an enraged bear with OW. The anger over someone hurting my marriage, my family and particularly my kids was HUGE.

[Yoyowife]

My wife's scare of his wife for some reason. maybe if she threatens D I could say don't make me have her come beat you down

Well, you did say she scares your W! Maybe ya'll could dress all thuggish and show up together. Ha!

[Ohio_Mark]

Remember what Theo said - you only play golf with them if you can beat the sh!t out of them!!!

Saffie

Remember, like I told ya, you gotta keep that left elbow stiff and follow through!!

[saffie]

Lester,

'shafted' means that they would not support you if it was in their interest not to.Must be a British euphanism - sorry.

Saffie

[Yoyowife]

What club would work best? A driver, putter...don't know much about golf unless it's minature golf.

[saffie]

Mark,

I have committed that to memory.lol

And I'm not even a golfer - I can always follow through with my whip though!!

Saffie

[lester]

That would be kind of funny. Maybe we could set up a babysitter and each pay half and set up like a sting operation. Get a rental with dark windows and wait til they get to the parking lot. Hmmm... Since they'll have the golf clubs we'd have to improvise... well I do actually have a 2x4 maybe cut it to nice size. yeah that's the ticket.

[lester]

no saffie, I know the word. I mean how would I be shafted? Do you have a for instance..?

[runningoutoftime]

If you are in a state that looks negatively on infidelity during divorce photos might be helpful.