Can my wife be having a MLC? I have posted in the newcomers forum but thought i would give mlc a try as some have suggested. My W has basically completely changed in the last 6 months since she found her high school boyfriend from 32 years ago online in March. She bought a seperate cell phone so she could call him without me knowing it, and spends most of her non working hours on the computer. I have been doing the DB thing the last couple of weeks, and it seems to be working. What i would like to know is what things i should be looking for to help me in this mlc. She turns 50 in december, can't sleep, has constant hot flashes, and is generally miserable every other day. Her mind is a thousand miles away, as some things that she used to do at home are now on the back burner. Most of her plants inside and outside would die if i didnt take care of them. She no longer waters them, and you would have thought before that she over watered them. Our kids are both now in college, a D in second year, and a S who just started at Penn State. She almost had a major meltdown last year in the fall when my D was having a problems being away from home for the first time. She all of a sudden in concerned where i go and what i do, and i just dont tell her much. I cant get her to go to the doctor, as i think she needs hormone therapy. She had a hysterectomy a few years ago, and i know the hormones are all screwed up. I know she was having small problems before the OM, mainly hot flashes, and not being able to sleep. I think the EA has made everything worse. Is there anything i need to watch out for? What strategy can i use if this is truly MLC. Thank you for any advice.
