Chat with OPs spouse?

[Ohio_Mark]

Was your wife angry at all? Has a D been filed for in your sitch?

Wife was angry, because initially one of the chat conversations was, um... "adult" in nature. Discussing his and hers habits, etc.... BF's wife and I both agreed that our communication had to be a secret.

Regarding divorce, lots of sabre rattling, but nothing filed.

Did your wife's BF's wife tell him that you two had been in contact?

He snooped his wife's computer and discovered our contact. Also, with some of the info that I had, it became apparent to them that we were in communication again after we had stopped for a while.

Also, she sent my wife a e-mail nasty-gram, and wife responded in kind. Kinda like a virtual catfight.

[lester]

My wife's scare of his wife for some reason. maybe if she threatens D I could say don't make me have her come beat you down

[lester]

THis is a little off topic but you know what's weird mark? I did some snooping on the Internet history and wife has looked up wedding cakes, dresses, honeymoons and crap but if she seen my history it would be db.com, marriagebuilders.com, retrovaille.org and of course the resiquite divorce lawyers.

The dichotomy is weird... seems like she wants fantasy marriage and the real one while I'm getting less to caring if I stay married but trying to work on a real marriage but still trying to protect myself. I don't know it's just seems odd that she would look up that stuff before looking up a divorce lawyer. I guess it's that fog but I mean wouldn't you think you would look up in that order? Sorry, just sometimes it's amuzing the stupidity of it all.

ohh btw I can hide my Inet trail, she can't because I locked the settings

[saffie]

it is going to be hard to look myself in the mirror without her knowing the truth. I mean that is so unfair; I’ve been able to DB and heal somewhat and she’s been getting the shaft.

You can't worry about OM's W. She may know and not be telling you. Or if you do tell her there is no guarantee that she is going to be grateful - she might try shafting you somehow in an attempt to save her own M. All you can do is looke after yourself. Only expose the A if it is in your best interests I know from first hand experionce that the OP's S will look after themselves first and foremost. You do the same.

Saffie

[lester]

I just had an idea... I could have this chat with OM's wife while my wife is golfing with him. They seem to be in the pattern of every Sunday... That would so be great maybe we could drive to the course together... lol.

[lester]

I think she may suspect, afterall us LBS's aren't morons. But I really don't think she knows. What do you mean by trying to shaft me? Saffie, am I missing something here?

[lester]

Everywhere, even Michelle's books say it's like an addiction so an Intervention makes sense... look we love you but keep acting like this and there's consequences. I've asked her to leave twice and that shook her up. I made it clear I wasn't forcing her out but there's the door. So, I know consequences do work but maybe it needs to be up a notch. That's just what I'm thinking.

[Yoyowife]

I just had an idea... I could have this chat with OM's wife while my wife is golfing with him. They seem to be in the pattern of every Sunday... That would so be great maybe we could drive to the course together... lol.

....and beat them with their clubs?!!!

[lester]

Well, I'm not violent but hey maybe she has a mean swing who knows... I know it probably wouldn't be wise but it would be dramatic especially if they were holding hands or "more" if you know what I mean.

[saffie]

Remember what Theo said - you only play golf with them if you can beat the sh!t out of them!!!

Saffie