Update: I want to Salavage my Marriage

[PhD_ChrisD]

I'm going to have to agree with CVA on this one. No one is truley held prisoner in any situation, it is more of a feeling than a reality. Unless, of course, Al Queda is holding a gun on you.

WRT, economic dependence, I would forward that is also a matter of perception. One person's idea of dependence is another person's idea of care. Partners depend on each other for a variety of need fullfilments: sex, love, caring, taking out the trash, mowing the law, and yes, to some degree economics plays a role as well.

I do think my W feels an imbalance in a number of areas of our M including the financial aspects. I am no psychologist, but I would think that is a contributing factor to her discontent. However, I do not want to get a D over economics.

Best,
--Chris