OK... I'll try and work with the cats... probably would be better all around.
I told her that I knew she was mad at me and I was sorry, but I couldn't do this in my heart. She responded saying she didn't want to be an ass. I responded saying she wasn't... I knew she was angry, hurt, scared etc. And I said I was too.
She responded saying "Me too, but we need to face facts divorce i love you but want to be happy"
I responded with "I understand that you want out and won't stop you"
She asked me to call her. We talked and basically I said the same things and she said the same things. She did say "don't give up on me"... I was floored!!! I told her I wouldn't and that I was working on things.