DR Chapter 1 - Well-Meaning Friends and Family

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I have had decent relationship with my ILs. Things have started to pile up inside me since my W's MLC started after she took a cruise together with MIL and she came back as a different person. Looking back I see MIL supporting my W's multiple EAs over the time and supporting her feeling that it is ok to move away from the M. I am at the point where I want to resort to LRT with my ILs since they do not want to stand up for the wrong she is committing in the M. Is this wrong on my part?

During my sitch I had nobody to vent to (before I knew about this BB) and I had chatted with my MIL openly about our situation in the hope that she can have a mature discussion with my W. That kind of backfired and made my W pissed off for soliciting help from her family. I have stayed away from that mistake, but recently I took a strong stand in response to an email from my MIL, when she started to nitpick little mistakes on my part - for example taking my kids off to Disneyland on a surprise trip without telling my W! I am shocked to get this response from MIL:

"I cannot agree with your description for love that it is a decision and maybe that's part of the problem in your marriage. Love is a feeling."

I am furious at this and I am ready to blow off. I need some advice.