Take lil for example (not meaning to pick on you lil). She has given and given, tried to see her bf in a positive light, understand his pain, empathize with him, yet she receives very little back. That one way flow is souring the relationship and could eventually doom it (I assume).
I don't mind you using me as an example, but the situation is no longer this way. Since my bf has been going to this fabulous AA group, he has undergone tremendous changes. He no longer snaps at me or bites my head off. He has become so much kinder, the civility level has gone way up. He's really quite a joy to be around these days. He's growing and he knows it and feels it. We can spend a three-day weekend at my house and just really enjoy being together. And as I've come to see and accept things about myself that I really didn't want to, my discontent has basically melted away and I feel really happy. I'm making a point of NOT analyzing it a lot, but just enjoying each day, letting things unfold as they will. I know that he loves me and I feel that he loves me. And the relationship is not perfect but it's very very good.
But, to reiterate, I don't mind you using that example from the past.
