"Going Dark" - 101

[NoDirection]

I am new to this thread and very interested in what people hve to say about my situation. My W and I were married when she was young, 22. We had a son when she was 23. She never really had the opportuntiy to go out and live on her own or be a part of the job force and I believe that is part of the reason why she has become a WAW.

The other part is that I neglected our R. I rarely did nice things for her. I always used verbal affection to state my feelings toward her. In retrospect, I REALLY took her for granted.

I have been DB'ing for about two months now. I have had success bringing our relationship back to a positive level but it is a far stretch to where we were before all the problems cameout. In many cases I would work on things and then something would trip me up and many of my old traits came out.

Now I have decided to "go dark". We still live under the same roof and interact as friends. What has got me into trouble is the fact that she "wants to go out and live." I feel that I need to let her just to get some resolution in the R. Let her decide if she wants to move forward with our son and I, I will be there. From what I have gotten from this thread is to be distant without not being there at all. I still help her as much as possible and interact whenever she initiates. It is something to help me not think about her stance in teh relationship right now. Any suggestions/comments???