I'm still dealing with my anger issues, trying to let it settle down before I respond back over on my thread. Writing letters to those I'm angry with, so that I can tear them up, etc.
Anyway, this post bothered me a bit so I felt like I needed to respond.
I think the "jump to D" is a bit hasty, although I really don't think anyone here is seriously advocating that he call a lawyer today (maybe I'm wrong). I for one think he should try for some serious MC. But if his W refuses, and if she refuses to be a W to him, then she has already broken her vows as surely as if she cheated on him repeatedly. Withholding sex, affection, intimacy from someone is infidelity in my book.
The trick is it may be HIS actions that are prompting her to withhold being a W. He needs to take time, preferably with professional help, to identify what contributions he might be making to the situation. Then after some time, if it is clear that he is doing what he can and she still refuses to make an effort then he is within his rights, biblically or not, to D.
I've heard far too many people use God and religion to either justify bad behavior or justify staying in a situation that is bad. If Jimmy wants to say that it is against his religion to D, then he needs to realize that he is putting himself in a prison of his own making, and accept that consequence. Once you abdicate your free will to someone else or to an idea/religion, whether right or wrong, there will be consequences.
JMHO of course
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
