So I guess my real rule is "I may have casual sex with men with whom I once was in relationship if I still feel respect and/or affection and attraction towards them enough to make the interaction enjoyable for me." However, if you cheated on my *ss don't be calling me drunk at 2:00 in the morning unless you enjoy having a phone slammed in your ear and if you were mean and withholding about sex for the 19 freakin' years I was married to you don't call me up after we're separated and tell me I looked hot when you saw me in the grocery store unless you enjoy hearing weary cynical laughter on the other end of the line.
I think this is key. For men, the general rule is: Sex is better than no sex. And if they feel like sex and there's ex-gf and they had hot sex with her before why not call her up? Which is fine imo if they didn't break her heart, in which case they qualify as jerks. If not, it needs to be evalutated on a case-by-case basis, with one overriding determining factor: what do YOU want? *s*
