But there has to be a way to get them BOTH out....
You can be a conduit, but ultimately your H has to choose stand. The best thing that WE can do, is to stay healthy, and to be the aroma of Christ. That should be our number 1 priority. Then we'll be the beacon, the rock, the spiritual mentor.
Alanon may help you. My SIL drug me to a 12 step program about a year ago. There were about 25 of us that met once a week for an hour. Everyone made a $1.00 donation per night, plus we bought materials that cost about $10.00. So the total cost was about $22. The donation was optional, and the books are at most libraries, so really it could be ZERO cost. Most of the attendees were women the W's, kid's, or parents of alchoholics. I learned alot about the disease of alchoholism during those 12 meetings, but I learned much more about myself and how to cope. The focus is basically on how we enable the alchoholic, contribute to the problem, and what to do about it.
You've got your head on straight right now AmyC, and your heart is in the right place. You may question that some days, but do not be decieved, you're on solid ground. Why else would you be so tempted to run, attack, and be angry. The enemy is stepping up his game, you have to recognize that.
Put on your armour and fight the good fight!
Love,
COG
PS Yes, you've made mistakes in your past, and some very big one's at that. But do not let those failures cloud your vision of the present. You are on the right path right NOW! Have no fear, have no regret, just keep moving FORWARD with courage, strength, and faith. Let no thought, no emotion, no other human being stand in the way or distract you from your mission.
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