I thank ya'll for your support, prayers and good wishes.
I have to say that this is not easy. Even after 2+ years of separation and one year of not even seeing my H, this divorce has hit me hard today. I guess you go through a grieving process no matter how prepared you think you are.
Today I'm wondering WHY??? I've logged hundreds of hours reading Jung and very article of MLC I could get my hands on. I know more about depression and bi-polar personality than I ever wanted to know. I think we have all asked ourselves "Why my spouse? Why me? Why did my kids have to suffer?" And there's just no real answer that can give us closure.
I have been on a futile quest for accountability. It is hard for me to fathom that some people (like the OP's) have no conscience and no morals. Our spouses seem to lose their compass when they get involved with these types of people, MLC notwithstanding. I truly believe that God will make these people accountable, but it will be on his timetable and not ours.
I have walked and walked today, trying to "walk off" the grief and pain. But I will be okay tomorrow, or the next day. We will all be okay, one way or another no matter how our situations turn out, as long as we keep our faith.