Chat with OPs spouse?

[Yoyowife]

Lester,
I have talked to OW's H. I can see the pros and the cons.

He was definitely able to confirm my suspicions, but that's all I really needed to know to see what I was up against. He also hired a PI who has info that they said I can use if I need it in my settlement.

Now let me tell you the down side. Often he would call me late at night and tell me that he and PI were watching his wife's house and my H had just arrived to spend the night. Yes, I knew it was going on, but I didn't want to know the exact time it was happening. As a result of these late night phone calls I lost a lot of sleep. I got where I started turning the ringer off of my phone.

In my case also I was subpeonaed by OW's husband's attorney because of the info I had. Luckily, I did not have to testify, but I felt like I belonged in a trashy soap opera, but I backed away from the situation and realized that I didn't have anything to be ashamed of.

The husband still tries to call me periodically, but I have been ignoring the calls. Everytime I talk to him he always whines about how he just didn't see this coming, what could he have done differently. Please don't think I'm being insensitive, but this has been going on for almost a year. They are now divorced, let's stop beating the dead horse. We have to start trying to live for ourselves.

So I guess my advice would be just be prepared for more than you really want to know.

Yoyo