Thanks, lnf. No, this isn't MLC, this is how my husband has always been, with the exception of the year or so he straightened up completely when I was lost.
As for the appraisal, I only know it came in at $205,000 which is what he had told me he wanted, now he says no, he wanted $217,000. I know exactly what he was doing/thinking in his alcohol impaired head that night and it's all bullshit. He has sunk further since then.
What I said in my previous post regarding filing for visitation etc...is the way I would handle this. Filing outright for custody would be insane considering I have nowhere to put her and sure as hell can't afford to move, EVEN with my recent raise. Further, filing for custody would only serve to alienate my daughter further and with him not thinking right anyway, it would do the same to him. Having precise visitation with my daughter separate from him and having him accountable to the court services unit and the folks that teach the parenting classes is the best way I can find to go.
I can not speak the word custody to him. He perceives it as a threat. He is also of the frame of mind that D11 can decide where she wants to live and there isn't a damn thing I can do about it.
He's just like he was before. Drunk with a sh*tload of things to do and not accomplishing one damn thing.
And get this: He told S14 he can have is birthday party there September 22 from 4-9pm. 17 teenagers are gonna be over there.
