AmyC,
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I have had all I intend to watch of that man setting my daughter up to fail in life because he can't belly up and be a friggin MAN.
He's an alchoholic AmyC, he's sick. It's easy to be angry with him, want to beat him with a stick. He likely deserves every bit of a beating, but the true test is to love him anyway. Love him, pray for him, but do not allow him to hurt you or your D anymore.

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He is treating her the way he used to treat me and I saw it with my own two eyes this weekend.
Reality bites! \:\( The blessing is that YOU have worked very hard to see through clear eyes. The next test is if you will act with a clear heart.
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I REMEMBER how that felt prior to my own MLC. He hasn't changed AT ALL.
You are right on it AmyC. Maybe he changed a little, but he has'nt shed his most destructive demons. You are right on this, and there's very little doubt.
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My husband will not respond to my faith in him, my hope, my tears, her failures or frustrations or even his own conscience and don't think for one minute it's not killing me realize that because it most certainly is.
It's killing me to AmyC. I'm with you 100%. You've got it analyzed correctly. Your plan sounds right, be the rock for your D, fight the good fight. My only caution is about your anger and resentment. I know it's hard to watch such stupidity, throwing everything away for a drink, or pride, or whatever. But that's not about you AmyC. God has given you clarity, now move forward with courage, strength and faith.

Love,

COG

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