I completely agree with you. Knowing yourself is the most basic foundation upon which EVERYTHING else rests. I know she does not know exactly who she is or what she wants. When I ask her this she gives me the answers we have seen before - I want my kids to be happy, I want a good M, etc...
This is an issue I am keeping in my mind, but I had to get her to get past those voices from her father first. They confused her in deciding who she should be versus who she thought her father thought she should be. If that filter has truly been lifted (and I know it will probably start creeping back in) then she might be able to find what makes her happy. It will take some time...
