Then she says "Go ahead and file" and I told her again that I wouldn't. I told her "I'm not giving up... I'm not the one turning this off... you are, so you should file"
She got PO'd and told me to get out that I wasn't being very nice.
Next time just leave out the last part "you are, so you should file".
In telling her that you are not going to be the one to file - try to let it come across more as what you are feeling and how you are emotionally still connected to her and the marriage vs. just standing your ground and making her do it. Let her know that you respect her feelings and will not stand in her way for what she feels she needs to do, but that in your heart, you don't feel that you could live with yourself if you filed. PERIOD.
