It is not 'being who we are,' that hurts. It is in being 'who we are not,' that hurts.
You, me, your wife... will struggle (suffer, elude happiness), because we do not realize that, rather than being who we are, we are busy being who we are not. Cuz we don't know any better.
Your wife simply cannot know HOW to be Who She Is... because she doesn't KNOW Who She Is. She just knows Who She Isn't.
i.e., "I'm NOT my mother, I am NOT my father, I am NOT my teacher, I am NOT my husband, I am NOT my children..." list goes on and on.
So she is very busy being Who She Isn't.
I'm sure she would struggle much less if she would just BE Who She Is. Ya can't do that, if you are busy being Who You Are Not.
