My h's dad is in a nursing home. He knows MIL can't take care of him as he is going to get worse and he can't breath at home because of MIL's cigarette smoke.(she won't smoke outside and she smokes around oxygen tanks). He has stage three lung cancer and COPD from the cancer.There is nothing more that they can do for him he is going to pass on. He is 85 and has lived a full life, he knows this. The thing is we think MIL has dementia and if she gets a minute alone with him she goes off on how he has to come home and this is all his fault, he just is trying to get away from her, and wants to see her homless. Everyone calls me, and I have to relay this stuff she is saying and doing to H and I feel like im'e bit##ing at him when i tell him. I know what is going on bothers him, and I try to tell them i think she knows not what she says(persay)and ask them to tell him not me but they don't. Im'e eisier to talk to, and I think they need to vent too.
I guess i just feel like he might think that this stuff is from my mouth not there's. When iv'e said things to him he says what do you want me to do. I just tell him that it's not coming from me im'e just the messenger.
MIL doesn't say any of this stuff around H so he doesn't see it as much.
Just trying to figure out a diplomatic way to handle everyone and keep my M and my sanity.
Any suggestions?
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
