Yes I have starting looking at what the issues in our relationship were and stopping drinking was a big thing – he hated my drinking but now he does not live here how will he even know? I guess friends will let him know maybe
I did not really want this separation I said it in anger, but I feel now that it was the only way to get some relief from the anger that was going on in the house and I have told him that we need space to work out what we want. But it is killing me, there is no more snooping (I used to check his phone and I am pretty sure he knew this). There are no more tears that he sees anyway.
He sent me an email today saying hello CD using my initials and informed me of his spending on our credit card and signed off regards – that stung, I just replied saying ok and this is what you owe, with no pleasantries what so ever on my part – this may have come across a bit harsh but I was trying to keep it business like. I also had to ring him tonight to tell him our friends father is dying and that I would keep him posted, he advised he is going away for work again and will be back next and wants to come to the house and do some washing and he said we will chat if I want to be here when he comes over, I said let me know when you are coming and I will see what I am doing – conversation was short with just the how are yous etc.
I just don’t know what to do, we have hardly had any contact but then I guess he has only been gone a week and in the DB it said let them have time to think.
I guess nothing I can do except keeping busy and see what unfolds.
Also I have to let go of OW as I really don’t know what is going on and it only drives me crazy.
One question though, if don’t initiate any contact how will he know that I care, what if he takes it as me being a b!tch?
I am still learning all this stuff so any advice is more than appreciated.
