PS, More huggggs to you. I know that you haven't had an easy time of it. You are so ahead of your H with relationship stuff, purpose in life, and emotions, and want your H to " get it" already, that it's driving a wedge between the two of you. Let go and let him figure things out. I still believe he can do this with the right motivation and direction.
Have a good day.
xo, RJ ( yes, I changed my name again...don't ask!)