All hope is lost/help

[Evie]

Ok my bubble has burst...

I think my H wants me to have a PMA and to GAL, it would ease his burden. I feel we are living separate lives but still together..and that that in the end will drive us apart because we'll have nothing left in common.

Cat - you are right, we need somehow to start to connect. I know its about making time, but he seems to spend a lot of time at work (his work is 7 days and unsociable hours).

He doesnt come to bed at the same time as me, often hours later, b/c he says he cant sleep, then if he could he would lie in until mid-morning. I'm the one who has to sort the K's out. He agrees to one day at the weekend to get up with them and let me have a lie in and then when it comes to it he never does.

Disillusioned - thanks for replying, I have dipped in and out of your posts and read with inspiration, although I feel unqualified to post to you, but i'm glad you have posted to me. I to feel I could explode, but thats same old same old, a 180 for me is to learn patience and bite my tongue, very hard when I feel unsupported and unappreciated and it doesnt stop my resentment?

Cat - thankyou for your continued support, you always say what I need to be told. Sometimes you can't see teh wood for the trees and you offer such clarity. Have you posted recently, I would like to catch up with your stitch.

I have always iniated LM and been rejected. 2 yrs ago I found by chance some viagra tablets and confronted H as it was such a shock. He said the problem was his and he had sought help for it. He's not taking them now as there is no pressure to ML. Would it help to start piecing if I were to start iniating again? (and of course I may be rejected). I dont want any R talks about boundaries as BTDT which solved nothing, so i'm working blind folded on trying to DB.

I'm reading Michele's 'sex starved marriage' atm, but my problem is about trying to establish a connection not mis matched sex drives.

Look forward to hearing from you.

xxx