This thread has been running for over 12 months now, should I start a new one?
Eldest D's 17th birthday this Saturday, she will then be the same age my w was we met all those years ago. Holy cr@p! I just did the math and it was 27 years ago. D hasn't made her mind up what she wants to do but is adamant that her mums 'friend' won't be there. Regardless of whether he is there or not I will have to be there for her.
Had the 3 younger kids on fathers day till about 2.30, we just went to the local markets and had some lunch. I was invited by MIL to MIL's for afternoon tea on fathers day to spend time with the rest of the extended family (all of them from w's side of course). Told MIL that w had told me om would be there so if he was going to be there I wasn't going to be there. MIL said there would be plenty of people around and I wouldn't have to interact with him. I said thanks but no thanks. As it was when I got the kids home w was out for a ride with om. I basically just dropped the kids off said my good bye's and left. No sense me hanging around really. W's brothers and sisters and their respective spouses seem to have accepted om, all though one of them (the single one male 40ish) appears to be on side and have a bit of compassion or is he just nosy.
D16-17 told me the other day her bf's mum was around and om was there. She met him for the first time and they talked for awhile. She told d afterwards that she thought he was an arrogant pri$k and a smartarse. I suppose it doesn't matter what she thinks of him but it was funny to hear the story as my d told it.
Although I think I've come a long way from the despair and hopelessness of the early post bomb days, I find I still spent a bit too much time thinking about w and the situation in general. At least now I know I'm thinking about it and the thoughts don't take over too much.
Got a call from w yesterday(woo hoo). She calls me less than I call her but it's not a competition or anything. Yes, a very rare occurrence indeed. Well it wasn't anything bad just a headhunter had seen my 2 year old resume and wanted to know if I was available/interested in a 6 month contract. I tried to engage w in a bit of small talk but I could tell from her responses that there was nothing there. How is it that a person you have lived with for 25 years and raised 4 children with cannot talk to you. I couldn't have hurt her that much surely.
Can't see me getting a 6 month contract with the headhunting mob. I programmed using a 4gl for over 6 years and just threw it in one day. Might have been my own MLC but more likely the grog. That was over 4 years ago and I've only done blue collar since. I've applied for several programming jobs over those 4 years but have never even gotten to the client interview stage. So not holding out too much hope for a nice sit down office job but it would be nice. Must look into manifesting my own job. No not look into should be, must start manifesting my own job.
Have picked up the guitar again in the last 6-12 months, not that I'd picked it up very high in the previous years but I did have one that I dabbled with occasionally. I always knew what I was playing even if no one else did. Seem to have the barre chords pretty well down pat now, only knew the theory for 15 years and never really practiced enough or had access to a decent guitar. So the other night I went to an open mike place and had a go. Got to massacre Bob Dylan's 'Isis ', The The's 'I've got you under my skin' and Elvis Costello's 'Psycho' before the regulars got back on and drowned me out and slowly turned my volume down. lol I'm still far too self conscious and must to learn to forget about me and just do it and be a part of it. Next stop MTV.
Got the second post bomb wedding anniversary coming up this Monday it will be 19 years. I probably won't even mention it, just like last year. Wonder if we'll make 20.
