(((HUGS))), wow, that is my nightmare, the involvement of the OW. I am so sorry...I really am. and agree, take some time, don't rush, make sure all your ducks are in a row.
good luck, and stay strong.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"