Repeatly, I have made my frustrations apparent to her, however she did not give it the attention that it deserved.
Hmmmm. I wonder if you can hear yourself... we could possibly distill this down to: "I have a problem (frustration). What are YOU going to do to FIX it!?"
That, to many people, is not a turn-on, in any way, shape, or form. I'm not saying I don't understand your frustration. But it is YOUR frustration, and I'm sure you have very definite ideas how you want her to behave to alleviate YOUR frustration.
And perhaps you can see... there really is nothing in that viewpoint that allows her to have her own feelings, wants and needs... or even feel safe in exploring them... in the face of you making your sexuality HER responsibility.
And honestly, I think you have been attacking the wrong issue. Lack of sex isn't the disease... it is the symptom of the disease. So treating the symptom is not curing the disease... IT just continues to fester and swell and spread to other areas of the R.
But the way you have attacked it, you have convinced your wife that the disease from which you suffer is lack of sex, and it is her job to heal you in order to save her M.
Now. If you had cancer, why would it be your wife's job to treat and heal your disease? I'm sure as a loving partner, she would be there to offer support, compassion, find a good doctor and treatment program WITH you... and do all she could to fight WITH you.
It sounds to me, however, that what you are describing is so adversarial... it is like you are BLAMING her for you having cancer.
So maybe in the way you have presented this issue to her... where you think you have been clear... you have actually been sending a much different message.
Yes. The situation must be addressed. Absolutely. But if you want to heal your M (along with your sex life), the first thing that is going to have to go is your resentment and your anger.
None of us can really help you until you decide what it is you want to do. Stay in or get out. Before you decide THAT... I would advise you, from personal experience... to let go of the anger and resentment... so you can act with clear thought... not riled emotions. Kwis?
