do what you feel is best and right for you...not what I or someone else would do.
Yes. But no matter what, live the life you want whether your spouse is there or not. And if you don't like something, you have the choice to change it or to live with it. Either is acceptable. But if you choose to live with it, embrace the choice and live positively.
CMNM, I have mentioned my friend, dotto, a number of times. She is a stander, one who I believe will stand forever. She is divorced, but I have never heard her say one bad word about her H. She lives her life. She does the things she wants to do and she stands for her marriage. And she does see him because of family.
Now, if that doesn't float your boat, you do what you have to do to make a change.
