We are too old to think about D, etc. I am too old to start over....too set in my ways, probably. Today I am discouraged and think nothing will change and that I will have to accept this to be like this the rest of my life. I will never know what it would have been like to have an exciting sex life with another man. I will have to "settle" for whatever is salvaged from this M and just try to throw myself into church work like I always did.....my entire life.
So, you are the oldest lady on the forum? Like you, I think I should be past all this stuff and not have to post on a M forum. Me 63, M 39 years.
Why Settle??
I read most of the thread and can relate to your situation and even your H’s actions/in actions. I can see why you gave the advice you did over on the SSM forum. My screen ID is DIY/Do it yourself, meaning I have to do it myself and not expect much help form anyone else.
Earlier in the thread, a woman said get a sexy nitie. I will disagree with her advice for different reasons. Maybe she and 25 other women have good intentions, which is everyone’s usual MO (good intentions) but sometimes intentions don’t work IRL. The SSM forum had a night wear thread and most of the guys said Victoria Secrets nities didn’t have effect on them. One guy said a cameo soft cotton top was his ultimate turn-on.
I will suggest smelling extra good over looking a certain way. I would rather have my W wear a large cotton T-shirt and smell good than a see-through or supposedly sexy nite time garment.
Smell and touch does more for me, especially when the light is low or when I am in darkness.
"settle" for whatever is salvaged from this M and just try to throw myself into church work like I always did.....my entire life
I work and my W=BB is retired. We had the “who cooks” problems too. I was doing most of the cooking and resented working all day and preparing the meals. It took a long time to convince BB that something simple was good enough.
If you can throw yourself into the church and you always have, I think that is why you are having some of your M problems. I know what it feels like to be 4th. Or 8th. on BB’s list. I will suggest doing more at home and putting the church activities 4th. or on hold for 6 months.
YES, Flylady. So glad you found that site. Several women and a few men have said the Flylady site helped them in various ways.
My comments are made with the intentions of helping and are not intended to be critical.
Reading your thread has given me some insights into my own M.
Like you, I think I should be past all this stuff and not have to post on a M forum. Me 63, M 39 years. 