Can someone point me in the right direction for the do's and don'ts?
I'm sure I'm breaking all the rules.. I'm out of my skull right now. Things went from OK to horrible. On the way home from picking up the girls from school, she calls me. She's on the way back from the lawyer and she seems to like him. She goes into the "so what's this you don't want to file stuff.." then she gets another call... after 2-3 minutes I hang up. She calls me back we talk for like 2 seconds and she's interrupted again. I ask for her to talk to me, but she switches over. I hang up. She walks in the house like 2 minutes later and I say "Thanks for the respect of talking to me!!" She said "It was my mother" and I said, "We'll you can call her back.. we kind of have an issue here!!"
So basically, she said I'm trying to screw her. She couldn't afford a lawyer and now I'm scheming her into staying by not filing. Even worse, she somehow assumed I was paying for both lawyers. I asked her if this is really what she wanted. She's an animal nut.. we have 2 cats, 2 dogs and her passion... 2 horses. She's agreed to give them all up. I asked if that's what she really wants. Evidently it is.
I told her over and over I'm not trying to screw her.. that I love her and can't do something I don't think is right.
I basically took all the blame.. I've done this, I've done that.. I'm going to change... yada yadda yaddda. Of course the "How do I believe that"
I'm so stupid.... She then said that she needs her space... she needs to think... she doesn't even know if this thing is salvageable.
She is so angry with me right now... She said "Even if I wanted to work things out with you, it's little stuff like this that pushes me away" Meaning screwing her over.
I'm sick over this... I plan to read the book as much as possible tonight... hopefully I can put a plan in place instead of this gut wrenching yo-yo game that she is winning.
Oh yeah... she seems to get a kick out of knowing when I'm in pain... is that normal?
