Tucson or Bust, part 3

[Kettricken]

Actually, the people to whom I refer are not in my inner circle and have no direct effect on me. So no, I don't think it's about 'needing to push aside the needs of the others so I can keep mine it sight'. What I think it *is* about is what Corri said. I realize that I have been unable to split apart "compassion" and "tolerance". Like if I admit they may have valid reasons for feeling/acting as they do, I have no choice as a good person other than to accept their sh*t. Truly, not so, eh?

The last part, I don't understand you at all. To ignore the deleterious effects of reenacting past hurts in the current relationship strikes me as delusional.