had a nice evening...though after I put dd to bed...h was playing in basement with son..I decided to rest a bit on the couch...h came up and tried once again to be physical...I said later...so h put son to bed...lit a fire and had a beer...I went for some wine..h said that'll wake you up..so we ended up downstairs at the bar talking...talking about one of my girlfriends who's been having r trouble and h aked if she had called back...from talking about her I was able to talk about us...used the love bank analogy...compaired it for him to understand by talking about his employees...one who simply shows up on time and does soley what is required and leaves when the shift is over...will be treated well but not given as much in return as the employee who goes the extra step showing that he is vested in the business...h at first didn't get it but the more examples I gave I think he understood... the friends issue is that they don't do enough together...simply spending sunday together isn't enough..can carry you through to maybe wed but by then resentment is starting to build...
also talked a bit about ow and how keeping her as a customer is not productive...that each time he comes accross her bill..does work at her house or on her street he will be pulled back into that place...asked him how he felt when plowing her driveway..(supposedly he didn't actually see her just plowed the drive) h admitted it was hard but is his job...h knows it makes things difficult..we'll see what choice he makes on it.
I do think that part of what happend over the past weeks does have a correlation to his plowing her driveway...the distance seemed to grow after the storms..
I may have talked to much about her...in trying to get h to see her for what she is...seems like he's a bit closer to understanding but not there yet...
I don't know what the rest of the week will bring but we'll see...this am I have been hugged so it appears it wasn't just a horny thang...
