Down and out...need hope.

[Not Much Left]

tostada

You sound fearful that if you give her space, she will pull away more, ie. distance does not make the heart grow fonder attitude.

Probably some truth there, but when your dealing w/ a WAW, you NEED To give her space, go read WAW78 and Sandi2 if you can find her thread.

At the very minimum, this sounds like you are trying to control the situation which you cannot do. You can certainly work on yourself and the marriage overall but controlling what she does may seem like it is working but trust me, it wont last. Controlling meaning guilting her into something or whatever.

C