Choc, I have been watching your situation with (often horrified) interest since my lurking days. I could not be more happy at this turn of events. Just wanted to chime in to say that I love the attitude you seem to be displaying here. I see no vindictiveness or holier-than-thou; you seem to really view the restoration of your marriage as a team effort. Congratulations.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert