"You have a pattern where you do something that you know is damaging to the relationship, then you just start acting like everything is fine and, when I don't act the same way you get all, 'look who's so grouchy today' and set me up as the bad guy. I was pleased that you wanted to talk about it, rather than ignore it."
So do you? Or is this her take on it. Notice that she is blaming you for any failings in the R. you do something you know is damaging to the relationship
How about witholding sex - is that not damaging to the R? And is she not acting as though it's all fine? Setting you up as the bad guy.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
